21 Things I have Learnt In 21 Years

It was my birthday on the 27th of January. To celebrate, I will be sharing 21 things I have learnt in 21 years. I turned 21, and in my 21 years of living, I guess this was one of the hardest birthdays for me. No, I am not depressed. I just didn’t think I had the strength to cope with whatever the day had to bring. Eventually, it was so much fun and I didn’t want for the day to end. I was just glad to be alive and with the people I love and love me. I still am. My small circle of friends and my family gave me much more joy than I imagined I’d get.

The few days leading up to my birthday were filled with emotional breakdowns, fear, and worry. Still, I am thankful for the kind of people I have around me. Always ready to pull you up. There’s no room to be sad.

We launched on this day.

So, 21 things in 21 years, what have I actually learnt….

1. Do you. After 21 years, why not? Eventually, if you live the way the people around you would like, you don’t live your own life. You were just an extension for them. Have your own thoughts, your own mindset, your own beliefs, your own way of doing things, and your personality. Be comfortable with doing you.
2. Set plans. Without plans, life would hit you as it likes. It doesn’t really care. I mean, you have no intentions, so it’d toss you all around. No plans, how do you even keep track of what you have done and what is yet to be done?
3. Have a support system. Yes, because no man or woman is an island. Simply put, iron sharpened iron as a man sharpened the countenance of his friend. (bible verse). There are some days when having someone around is what you actually need. Moving forward, don’t be overly self-reliant, because at the end of the day, we are all humans.
4. Personal development. Always invest in yourself. Nothing is ever better than that. It is a very important part of growth.
5. Relationships are important.
6. In all your endeavours, network and make connections. Have people around you that know what you do and will mention your name in the places that matter, to the people that matter.
7. It’s never too late. It can only be late when you are late. So, please start. Don’t quit. Someone needs your message. You’ve spent 21 years on earth; there is still more.
8. Set your standards and values. If you don’t, people will give you anything they feel like, and you’ll keep ending up dissatisfied. This is very key for me; I almost always accept whatever I am giving, no questions asked but I know it’s not what I want
9. Have boundaries. Create boundaries and respect other people’s boundaries
10. Take time to have fun. Don’t be to uptight. I have heard that I take life too seriously. So, I am trying to have more fun.
11. Forgive. Forgive yourself and forgive others. Again, you’ve spent 21 years on earth; there is still more.
12. Circumstances change. People change, too.
13. Don’t be afraid to let go
14. Don’t hold yourself back
15. Celebrate every win, big or small
16. Stop self-sabotaging
17. Take care of your health.
18. Don’t limit yourself
19. Try to explore, travel more, meet new people, and take risks.
20. Believe in yourself and your ability
21. Trust God.

It has been a long ride. 21 years looks like it holds a lot. I look forward to another amazing year. Thanks for celebrating with me. Now, to go and deal with the fear of getting old.

Finally, How do you deal with getting older? Do you celebrate birthdays? Please share with me in the comment section.

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