Let’s Do Intentional Relationships

Doing relationships in this time and age is hard, as it is more of a case of hitting up your partner and saying, “Hey, boo, you know what, let’s do intentional relationships.” To who and with whom? If you have found the love of your life, congratulations. If your eyes are still on the road, safe journey to all of us. My advice: fall in love before Buhari bans love. 😅

I hope you are not part of the hard guy, hard girl community. You see me, I’d say yes to the guy who is ready to propose under the Eiffel Tower. The people inside their room should be happy. For me, the Eiffel Tower is the place, and I’ll respond in French and shout, “Oui, Oui.”

So, I have been on a self-declared love holiday, and I am about to exit. It is exciting in these end times, where broken people are everywhere. They are looking for someone to pour anger on and drag on Twitter. But then, there are the good stories, and I wish people would share them more often.

THIS IS ONE COUPLE THAT HAS GIVEN ME MUSHY MUSHY FEELINGS THIS YEAR. OKIKI AND REMI, MAY YOUR LOVE CONTINUE TO GROW.

There are a few people who will make you smile sheepishly and continue to think about love. When you see them, your heart beats kikuum kikumm. You only think about how you’ll spend the rest of your life with the person who will steal your heart.

I hoped that my time away from Nigerian men would help me define what I want. Also, to add more intentionality to relationships. With the love of my life, yes, and also with family, friends, etc.

Do you know that a person can be a goal-getter, win in career, finance, culture but fail in relationships? Why? Because thought wasn’t put into it.

We are intentional about everything else in our lives except love. When we want a new job, we search for one, and until we find it, we don’t stop. Time to further our education, we apply to schools. Lose weight and get in shape; we begin exercising and become lifestyle, health and food conscious.

But you see this love thing, many of us will do nothing. Many would rather wait for it to fall into their laps, waiting for vision and hope for the best. We care and are intentional about everything else in our lives except love. It can be embarrassing to admit that you desire love for fear of sounding desperate. Then, the pretence begins.

Intentionality about love and relationships doesn’t mean love. Being intentional and open to receiving love is OK, and we shouldn’t feel bad about it either.

There’s one thing about being intentional about relationships. Well, you can be intentional, and your neighbour in love is not. That’s the beginning of wahala.

It’s one thing to you know say you are in love or that you’re thinking about relationships. It’s a different thing to be intentional about the whole process. Meeting them, getting to know them, falling in and out of love, and eventually putting the ring on your finger.

Taking deliberate actions to build a connection that lasts forever. But, love these days is like Nigeria’s electricity. It will shock you.

Today’s blog post signifies the end of my love holiday. I am now single and searching. 😅

I talk about other things on the blog. Please read them here. Today is for comic relief, so no lecture today. 🤭

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