WHEN DOES EXPECTATIONS BECOME TOO MUCH?

So, every normal, brain-having, air-breathing human being has certain dreams, expectations, and wishes that he or she wishes to come true. While most people are hard at it, others are nonchalant, and some just move with it. The thing is, either way, the world wants to see results. Nobody wants to know how you do it; just be productive. If you are not in a hurry, don’t worry; people will rush you.

Nigerians and our poking around You cannot live your life in peace; you must have people who are living it with you. Do you ever notice that you do things you never planned on doing? Our parents are at the top of the list. From your choice of friends to how you eat and look, the university you attend, and the course of study, it is even harder on the ladies. They go as far as relationships.

Trust me, Yoruba people are the worst. Before you have a friend, they start asking you about the tribe, state of origin, what their parents do, etc.

Expectations rise with age

Back to the topic, normally, the higher you go, the more is expected of and from you. True. But these expectations are gradually becoming too much and unrealistic. A young man of 22 has his father, mother, siblings and even extended family members depending on him. Then there is the girlfriend, the friends of the girlfriend, the girlfriend’s family and the list goes on and on with people who never contributed or don’t even have any plans at all of contributing to your success.

One thing I noticed is that we have more leeches who want to tap more than they can give, and are not even family.

When will you get married? When will you get a job? Ordinary admission you can’t even get, and your mates are graduating. Why does he drive such a car? With all the money he has?

The thing is, there is nothing new to be said anymore; there are no new accusations. Personally, I have zero expectations from anyone. If you listen to all these things, you are most likely to suffer from depression.

Live on your own terms. Poach negativity.

Eventually, people who condemn have nothing to show and only wait for you to fail, and people who actually care will encourage you to stand… Stay away from hypocrites.

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If only Generation X and Y knew that the height of responsibility being placed on Generation Z might actually be too heavy. I guess this is what has led to many youths indulging in gain finance from immoral sources.

You’ll actually listen to the stories, experiences, and backgrounds of some people, and you’ll be touched. Most of the time, don’t blame people for doing what they do; it could simply be a lack of the right opportunity. No reason is justifiable enough to justify engaging in fraudulent activities, ritual killings, or sex work to gain wealth.

If parents could stop thinking that a child, particularly the first child, after gaining admission to a higher institution, should begin to bear the financial burden of the parents. Or, in times of need, such a child should sort it out on their own.

Then there are those who are burdened with unnecessary responsibilities. Being the father of their girlfriends and the mother of their boyfriends, please don’t shoulder any vain responsibility. Be of help when you can, and if it is a committed relationship or you are just willing to help out, do it to the best of your ability. Don’t sacrifice yourself by giving your entire being to help others.

You cannot satisfy everybody.

Take every day as it comes. Make plans. If it fails, strategise again. Trust God and Succeed.

Honey…

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