WHY DO WE KEEP SECRETS?

I like to see secrets as a very small black box hidden in a very big dark room. We do not want them to be seen. They should be hidden forever. Do you know that some of these things we hide are insignificant, however? Why not say what it is and get over it?

Why Do We Keep Secrets?

We often keep secrets because of the raw, unpredictable reactions we anticipate. The fear of anger, regret, disappointment, or discouragement can be paralyzing. We dread the thought of seeing trust shattered, believing that by withholding information, we’re somehow protecting a fragile bond. Yet, ironically, this very act of “protection” often leads to the opposite outcome.

Have you ever noticed that the longer a secret festers, the deeper the hole it digs? It reaches a point where, if the truth does eventually surface, the revelation can cause more damage than if it had been shared earlier. We might tell ourselves that the other person is “mature enough” to understand, that enough time has passed for acceptance. But the truth is, the very trust we tried so hard to safeguard often becomes irrevocably broken.

What could have been a shared journey through difficulty, a process of healing together, instead becomes a delayed and excruciating unwinding. The person on the receiving end is left to wonder if you can ever truly be trusted again after such a prolonged deception. Beyond the destruction of trust, secret-keeping can breed deep-seated insecurity issues. It’s not just about not trusting the other person; it’s about not trusting yourself, and often, the secretive partner still doesn’t fully trust their significant other, perpetuating a cycle of doubt.

Asides from trust being destroyed, there tend to be insecurity issues. Mostly trust though, because, you don’t even trust yourself. It’s unfortunate however that the partner with secrets still doesn’t trust the significant other.

At the end of the day, the past is the past because it just has to be left there. I guess there is also a difference between what should be left buried and what shouldn’t. While some things are trivial, some things are just too heavy and have to be made known.

I don’t see secrets as being all out bad but when it becomes something you have to fear, then something is definitely wrong.

I don’t know if keeping secrets is more in ladies than men.

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Being secretive inevitably creates a web of lies. You find yourself piling half-truths upon half-truths, simply to maintain the facade. A half-truth is no truth at all; it’s a distorted reality that only compounds the original problem. What’s more, when problems, riddles, or even addictions are shared, solutions often emerge much quicker. You can approach challenges with greater ease, gaining fresh perspectives from others. A man or woman burdened by secrets is, in essence, imprisoned.

A man/woman with secrets is imprisoned.

Set yourself free. The path to liberation often begins with honest communication. It’s about recognizing that vulnerability, though terrifying, is the bedrock of genuine connection and lasting trust.

What are your thoughts? Why do you think people keep secrets, and what do you believe is the best way out of the cycle of secrecy?

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