DO YOU TELL YOUR PARTNER ABOUT YOUR EX?

For most people when relationships don’t work and they move on. In moving on, they tend to carry some old baggage, what I’ll term as “excess load”. One of such signs is deciding whether or not to tell your partner about your ex.

We know that it’s not quite easy to let go. So, why get into a relationship when you know you have not ready to let go. Many people have held on for so long that they don’t know how to let go anymore. They’ve placed so much of their life on it and it’s now a make or break situation. Even in relationships that seem not to be beneficial to both parties involved they still find it hard to let go because of the time spent.

When you find it hard to let go of the past and you are in a new relationship, you are depriving your partner of truly receiving love.

It’s like you don’t want to hold on and you don’t seem to be letting go.

Should You Tell Your Partner About Your Ex?

You have to pick one. You can’t eat your cake and still have it.

Then, do you just tell your partner about your ex or do you not? If you do, what do you want to say about the relationship?

So, do you begin to narrate how you guys had fun? Spent your time? How you ate? slept? The things you talked about or what exactly?

If you have issues that could be a problem to your new relationship or you know anything that could bring trust problems or that may tie you to your ex, bring them up at the beginning of your new relationship. Settle it and don’t bring it up again.

Read here: Why Do We Keep Secrets.

Unless you are in a rebound relationship, which is bad, your partner shouldn’t feel like they are dating you and your ex, making it three in that relationship.

I have a friend whose problem is with the partners ex. Her question is “why would he still be in contact with his ex?”

Often times, we spark up jealousy in our partner by failing to understand the concept of ‘moving on’. The past is your past for a reason, for it to stay in the past. Contact with your ex should be on business basis, if you should even be in that state.

Don’t make your partner feel less or compared or even like you want to go back to your old relationship. That’s why you should be sure you have cut ties completely before moving on.

So, do you tell your partner about your ex? Your answer should be based on three things.

1. What you intend on saying.
2. How it will affect your relationship.
3. The kind of reaction it will create.

Like I said, do not constantly mention your ex. The past should stay in the past. Don’t let it affect your today.

With love,

HoneyDrops.

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