WHAT DO WOMEN WANT?

I had written on “What Exactly Do Men Want?” some few months back, but it seemed to have a spark of a little protest that made me conclude that men are inconclusive about what they want; they also asked, ‘What do women want?’ and said women are indecisive about their particular needs/wants. It seemed my post was a bit biased toward men, but it comes from experience.

So, a lot of guys came up and said women don’t know what they want, which has now led to this post. In their claims, women do not know what they want for themselves. I received a lot of messages as to how women are selfish, how they want one thing now and later on want something else; hence, women are indecisive.

However, someone came up with a different point that I feel applies to both men and women.

Our wants are different from our needs; our needs are far better than our wants; our wants vary with time and will always change. What matters most is the value we place on it.

We can’t dwell on our needs because needs vary from person to person. Let’s focus on wants that apply generally to every woman.

So, in the male defence, some said that women are selfish, aside from being indecisive.

In our society, it is believed that a woman would cheat on you no matter how much you spend or how much you love her. In a comment I got, you can get a woman her own personal jet, and she will still go ahead to have affairs with the pilot.

What Do Women Want?

At this point, I disagree that women don’t know what they want. The fact is they do. Every woman wants these three things:

• Security
• Balance
• Stability

Check it a woman who cheats is lacking one of these in her relationship.

By security, I mean how women want to feel safe from worries or fears or doubts. No woman wants to have a false sense of security. They want emotional security, financial security, intellectual security and security for her tomorrow. No woman wants to deal with constant fears that she is standing on quicksand. When a man has the finance but no emotional commitment or his emotional quotient is low, she moves or there are the emotions but no financial standing, she moves. But note that before she does, there must be a willingness in the man to change, get better. This leads us to balance.

It is not possible to find what you are looking for in one package. A trait must be dominant over the other or equal. Some women want 80 to 20 per cent of emotions to finance, some want the opposite, for some it is 50:50, others it is 60:40. Some want one and don’t even care about the other. The question is how you measure up to the set goals and plans of the woman. Some women hang on to a man for as long as they can and once they see he can’t give what they want then they move on. It’s not a pre-planned motive but the thought of protecting their future kicks in.

Then yes, it is one thing to have everything a woman wants, it’s another for you to be able to give it to optimum, it’s another to know how to dispense it. It’s also another to know how to be consistent with giving and to know when to give and to be able to give as and when due. The question is, why hold back what you intend to give?

The lack of consistency in some men is what pushes women to do what they do. It seems the love has “finished”. It takes a lot for a woman to maintain relationships. So, when you give today and hold back tomorrow, you are inviting trouble. You are creating room for insecurities. In one word, to be stable means to be consistent. Don’t create unnecessary fears.

Women know what they want, but then, there are some who want everything at the expense of others. This same selfishness is applicable to both the male and female races.

That women value and maintain relationships more is not a matter of contest. A woman wants to know that tomorrow is secure; every day of her relationship is safe, that her tolerance won’t run out, her patience will yield its reward and satisfaction is guaranteed. I can tell you that a woman does not want maybes. It is give in, give out for them. What you give is what you get. Women are multipliers. Be strong and reliable, have the right character and mindset. Be dependable and consistent. Hardworking and above all, BE LOYAL.

This act of testing a woman by holding back should stop because you’d get the results you hope to achieve or you won’t stop till you do. This male egocentric act must end. Learn to trust, believe and have faith. This is one of the things that led me to write the initial post.

You can’t lose if you invest the right way in the right woman. Note that I said RIGHT WAY; RIGHT WOMAN.

Ask that lady what she needs, not what she wants. Don’t neglect what she wants.

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