UNPOPULAR OPINION: BE A MAN

Our society has been programmed in a way that anything contrary to opinion is unpopular.
You know you just have to be a man. In everything you do, the way you think, talk, walk, in everything. Just don’t be slow or feminine, appear delicate or fragile. We have been programmed in a way that we just have to believe that men just have to be men. But then, what does that mean to be a man?

In being a man, the masculine gender has to be viewed as being strong, brave, unyielding, relentless, sacrificing, providing, et cetera. The man should not be weak at any point.

BOYS TO MEN.

Boys should grow to be men. So, the qualities of being a man should be instilled in them as they are growing each passing day. They should be watching and learning from established men, people who have gotten the stamp of recognition as a qualified man, the perfect man. Every male figure has to live up to society’s standards.

Men are meant to do things that are ‘masculine’. Jobs that are tagged feminine, men were not meant to do. Jobs like baking, cooking, being a secretary or a personal assistant. Anything tagged comely and soft. Thank God for changes and societal development. Although, segments of society have refused to evolve. A guy/man cannot be effeminate at any point. These days you’d be tagged as gay. A behaviour we formerly referred to as woman-wrapper.

BE A MAN: OFFER SPECIFIC HELP

Yes, let’s come back to the home and rewind back a bit. Remember watching Nollywood movies growing up (before this new trend of Nollywood movies) or popular TV series, Superstory, This Life, Papa Ajasco and the likes; where once a man begin to take up house chores, then definitely, the wife has charmed/jazzed him or has metaphysically tied him down. A man cannot cook, clean or take care of the children; it’s the job of the wife.

Thank God again for evolution. To think at a point in time, it was a major sin to help your wife with her undies. In some quarters, it still is. I’m laughing right now because still many people are against this. Well, that’s the business of you and your partner.

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Please, let’s get the idea out of our head that men should be tough, on the edge and always on the move. Men are meant to struggle, survival should be top of their priorities, bear the financial burdens and what not.
For God’s sake, men should not cry. They should not express their feelings all the time, it should be controlled, don’t show the woman you love how much you do to avoid disrespect. Who made all of these rules?

BRO CODE

Who brought up that Bro Code thing again? Can men live away from society’s rules for a while? Like a friend said,

It is left to individual to accept as you fit.

The crying or not breaking down, I feel it has left a lot of strong, walking, insecure men. Afraid of nothing but their own insecurities. Top of the list of insecurities is the fear of failure. Fear of failing family, failing

As much as we want to hold on to the saying that it’s a man’s world… Let’s give them room to breathe. It’s quite moving seeing an emotional dude. Then later, they claim strong, even if a lot of them know how to pretend these days.

What are your thoughts on being a man? What do think about how the society views this topic? Please, leave a comment.

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