What is My Money and Our Money?

With all the love blues going around, love blues enough to last a lifetime, let’s come back to another area of the talking table and be guided and let’s know what we are doing. We rarely focus on finances in relationships. The idea is that for women, “my money is my money and our money is the man’s money.”

I have a question, which money is my money, and which one is OUR money? Or when is money my money and when is it OUR money? I’d really love to know so I can determine how lavish or prudent I’d be in a relationship. I’d prefer to be the right amount of both. From the way I’m thinking now, it seems we have couples’ finance. It might have existed before o, but I don’t know or I never really thought of it.

POEM: IF MONEY COULD BUY LOVE

Why do men not want our money?

I have heard people talk about husbands paying their wives’ salaries, never knew it existed, that is aside from regular allowances for running the household and, let’s say, cash gifts. Yet, in all this, I think we, women, like to say that OUR husband’s/boo’s money is OURs. You can agree or disagree. But the woman’s money is personal. It is her money; it is my money.

Seriously, why do the male folk not want to be associated with her money? Does it also come with the male ego? Does it come with pride? Why don’t men want to associate themselves with their lady’s money but feel comfortable with the lady hanging around them? So, boo’s money is fondly called OUR money.

I have heard a lot of women claim financial independence but would still love to be spoilt silly with their money. Asides from the stubborn ones. Funnily enough, ask a lot of women if this money the man gives them would be used to take care of the man. Don’t argue with this fact. Yet, even after spending it on the man, a majority of men would love to return it back or outdo the spending.

Financial Independence

Boo’s money is OUR money, and yet I shouldn’t be entitled. What then is this financial independence women speak about? Quick solution, it’s OUR money but then my money is my money. I don’t have to wait for OUR money before I live. The reason why some ladies find it hard to leave some relationships is that if they do, their source of income is gone. Please, guys, spend on your boo, the love of your life, but if it’s yielding no results or you can’t afford it, please stop it. Don’t take another person’s responsibility when hardly fend for yourself.

Yes, I want to keep MY money and yes; I want to use his/OUR money. Since pride wants to get the better of them, let’s enjoy. Not all men are like that, though; there is equal participation from both the man and woman in the relationship. I feel this is better as long as there is no breach of the agreement. For me, I feel every relationship is a partnership. What is yours is mine and what is mine is yours; as long as we don’t cross the line.

Money in Relationships

What’s the point of a relationship, if I have no idea how much you make, what you do with your money if you even save… Imagine running a joint account with a lavish partner or just leaving one party in control? It’s my money because yes, I have control over it. It only becomes OUR money because I choose to let you have access.

And please, all this talk of couple finance is for serious, committed relationships. Talking about it helps you plan and not I-am-not-sure relationships. It only becomes OUR money when we are serious about our relationship. Even then, be careful about all these serious relationships, a lot happens. Don’t take over another person’s financial responsibility.

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