WHEN DO YOU KNOW YOUR RELATIONSHIP IS TOXIC?

Everyone has been in a relationship since they were born. Relationships are too important to human existence to be overlooked. But how do you know your relationship is toxic? From cradle till death, you just have to be in a relationship, either natural or artificial, near or distant, familial or romantic… It’s just as though we do not have a choice as to whether we want to be in a relationship or not.

But then, we have the free will to choose whoever we want to be in a relationship with. We can’t choose a family; we can’t really neglect family. However, we can choose those we want to have ‘affairs’ with.

Not just a romantic relationship now but also mutual friendships, what we like to term as being “just friends”.

Some of these relationships are detrimental, however. They are just not good. They are TOXIC!

How do you know your relationship is toxic?

When a relationship begins to rob you of your joy, sap out your energy, begins to fill you with anger, envy and bitterness, when positivity begins to drain out and you can only think negatively… just be careful, those are telltale signs that your relationship is toxic.

When you begin to expend so much time on a relationship and you are getting fewer returns on your joy and satisfaction, it is toxic. Yes, a relationship should be about giving, not what you receive, but you know, even your giving doesn’t just go down well in your throat; you just have that gut feeling. You are giving it to the wrong person. Yes, give, but be wary…

You know those relationships where you love in all sincerity, honesty and purity of heart, but your partner has a fit of rage and jealousy that is just so uncontrollable? It is indeed toxic. Irrespective of the love, those things backfire, and the end result is not so pleasing. If such a partner is not willing to take classes or find help for it, please leave. And end things well, just in case. How will you be in a relationship where the other party can go to any length if angry or jealous? You shouldn’t even have a sense of security or freedom?

Or those relationships where the emotional blackmail is as high as bargaining on the stock exchange market. These ones are crazy; the partner just keeps threatening to leave while you are trying hard to make things work? Just try it once, let them leave, and don’t beg. Then they come back with this story of you not caring.

Or imagine you are in the pocket of the relationship (male or female), and the other party keeps mentioning the fact that they have nothing, or they feel intimidated anytime you mention money. Or those ones that blackmail you with a sad experience in their past, like you caused it. Like the death of a parent, loss of a job…those sorts of things. I just hope you know now that it is toxic.

The relationships where there is no trust or belief, just doubts, or you constantly get jealous. If you ever feel intimidated by your partner, please find someone on the mutual ground like you, PLEASE.

Most people don’t know how bad some relationships can be, even if you fall under this category with a friend, back off.

Eventually, toxic relationships lead to bitterness and depression, which can be harder to recover from than even a breakup itself.

Take things easy…

Live and let live…

A Drop of Honey for Your Day…

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